Friday, December 15, 2017

Value...

"To be self-reflective is to explore the various external influences affecting consciousness.." 

What do people value?
How is the value of one person measured?
How is your value perceived by others: those whom you value specially?

In perspective, "value" is subjective. It is defined by whoever sees it. The phrase: "The beauty is in the eyes of the beholder" illustrates the value -- which in this case is beauty.

To a person, our value can only be seen by the benefits we can show, offer, and promise. Personally, I had been subconsciously testing people how I am valued. Many of which really, can only be seen when the "benefits" are packaged to their "standard" -- their way of appreciation.

Each individual seeks some form of value to others -- hence the conscious self-reflection and aim for self-improvement. We try to please them by saying the kind words; showing grace and compassion; etc.; whenever we are prompted. We put ourselves out of our own comfort to understand, console, and, make our way for them -- sympathy and empathy.

However, such value can be short lived. Whatever shown can be forgotten, ignored, and can be seen negatively to the extreme. Any mistakes done along the way may outweigh whatever kindness, sympathy, understanding, and anything provided -- volunteered or grant to a request.

In love, the default is that you value the person -- that what love is. In loving the person, you see what is good and try to help out to overcome anything bad. Clearly, you both want to be valued -- both to see the value in each other: the promise of togetherness, understanding, and support. Initially, when in love, the value can be overrated. As time goes by, the value of each other, for each other, should increase in order to sustain love. If love is just the relationship, the value is put together in just one side of the value of the relationship. Love goes beyond the relationship and should endure so to make the relationship, the feeling, the view of value in each other.

To love is to give and aim to improve the value of each other. This can be achieved by knowing each other and consciously aim and work to improve each other -- compensate the failure of one, and uplift the success of the other. 

Clearly, to value a person is to have a reason and purpose with the person. Time is the least valuable resource to a person with purpose. He can spare time to achieve a better perspective -- the achievement and the realization of the value of the goal. Take for instance a patient hunter for his price catch.

How should I value you? Understand my reason, and focus on the value of its purpose. Forget the means and ways, put the goal ahead of any trials.

See the value.